Regaining Your Confidence!

There is a lot you don't know about me. I am a lot of things.I am a daughter, sister, lover and friend. Sometimes I am a good daughter, sister, lover and friend, but sometimes I am not. I love people and I care for people. But sometimes I can't stand people to be around me! Sometimes you just wanna be left alone! It's funny because as I grow older, I realize that there are a lot of things that I really don't even know about me! I learn a lil bit more about me everyday.! I call it maturity and growth. I call it "regaining confidence" in yourself. Allowing what you learn along the path of life to guide you throughout life. This blog was supposed to be about me! This once fat girls journal on how to become fit and fine. I realized sooner than later, this is not what I needed. I realized that I needed to have confidence in any size jeans I was in. Food wasn't the culprit to my unhappiness. Situations and people whom I allowed into my home, my life, my circle. These were some of the things that caused me to be unhappy and leaded me to feed my emotions. 

I write when the spirit moves me to write. I am not an everyday blogger and sometimes I am just in a slump. I don't want to do anything because I really am consumed with LIFE! But when the spirit moves me, I am obedient and I do what it tells me to do. About 2 months ago my spirit was happy. The person who I really truly cared for and began to love was coming home! I was excited, over joyed and happy! We met over 2 almost 3 years ago. But we split and then we decided to try it one more time. As you know, while he was gone, I started my health awareness and began eating better and exercising. I wanted to be healthier and stronger but, I also wanted to look fabulous and sexy once he saw me after being gone for so long. When he got back, I had lost a total of 34 pounds! AMAZING! Within  4 months, I lost 34 pounds! I felt good and I looked good!

 I slipped on my Recco Chapele body huggin dress! My boobies were sitting puuuurfectly and that body was right!  And when he saw me!!!!!!! Nothing... Not one word. Not one word of babe you look good. Not one word asking me how I lost the weight, not one word... Wow. Kinda crushing. A lot of other things were not right, (that I wont go into detail about... right now...) but I was kind of crushed. Here it is, I am no longer at risk for predisposed diabetes, I look and feel great! Is it just me. Am I tooting my own horn too much?? Well, needless to say I decided to allow that relationship to cease. We can always be friends. But I knew from that day, the fire wasn't there that I needed to keep me going. The fire to keep me inspired, happy and encouraged to live my life healthier and better wasn't there.

I didn't allow the relationship get me down! In fact it made me work harder! I am so happy right now. I keep reassuring myself that I would rather be alone than unhappy. I get out 3 or 4 times a week and work out in the park! I go and walk for 45 minutes to an hour to clear my mind, think about what I need to do and imagine where I want to be in the future. It is free and I don't have to worry about dirty ass men stalking me in the gym, looking at my titts and ass while I jog on the treadmill! I am now 42 pounds down and I have 25-30 more to go. I am taking my time because I want to do this right. But I am not stopping until I get to where I want to be health wise and physically! 

Ladies and gents, never wait on someone to compliment your confidence! Wear your badge of confidence everyday! Knowing that you are awesome and beautiful no matter what nobody has to say! REGAIN YOUR CONFIDENCE!!! Eat right and Keep it Tight! 

Work Out for Love

Would You Work Out for Love???

Would you or could you drop the LB's if your partner was less attracted to you due to weight gain? A lot of women and men struggle with this issue. I have a few friends who have gotten married over the last few years. Some of them have remain the same size since college. But some of my friends kinda got relaxed with their new spouses and their weight has ballooned outta control. Recently I got into a relationship that made me extra happy! I am so happy to the point of me wanting to lose weight! Don't get me wrong. My love has never said anything to me about my weight or my size. I think if he did, we would no longer be together. I feel that if you get into a relationship with a person and they don't accept you for who you are, SCREW THEM! They are undeserving of your love, time and affection. 

But, on the other hand, is it okay to gain tons of weight after being with a person for a long period of time. Women go on these crazy wedding diets to look beautiful on their BIG day! Only to get BIGGER 6 months after the wedding. That aint right ladies! What about the weight we gain after the babies come?!?!? How long should it take to get the baby weight off? Everyone's body is different. So what might take one woman 6 weeks to lose extra pounds, might take another woman 6 months! 

Men, the same thing goes for you! Your wife gets pregnant, and the next thing we see is your belly poking out of a shirt! So not cool dude... I think that women are more forgiving when it comes to baldness and belly's. But men can't shake the fact that women over the years gain extra weight due to a lot of things. So with this being said, If you have a partner who has gained a few pounds over the years and you see that they are not the same. They are lacking confidence and are feeling more and more uncomfortable about their weight gain, help them!  Here are a few tips to encourage them and not discourage them! 

5. Pack a lunch for your spouse that is healthy and cute. If you fix a nice healthy salad, give them a low calorie treat with an I LOVE YOU note attached. This shows your love that you care about their health and not their weight..

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4. Suggest going out on the town to dance! One sure way to burn some calories is to get down on the good foot with the one you love!

 3.If you have children, simple activities like bike riding can get the whole family involved with exercise! Playing tag for 10 minutes can get the heart rate going! Even though I don't have  kids, I love taking my niece and nephew roller skating! FUN! FUN! FUN! 

2. Stop eating out all of the time! It's not healthy or cost efficient at all! Try new healthy recipes and cook together. In the midst of your cooking sneak a kiss or two here or there! 

1.After that meal, try a little dessert... On your partner!

 Dr. Weiders, Calories Burned by Sex Study shows that you can burn up to 900 calories during a night of hot steamy SEX! Hello! Tantric Sexual Healing also engages your partner, stretches the body and gets you in the mood to burn up those calories in the bed!  

There is no perfect body. We all have our insecurities and hang ups about our reflection in the mirror. I think that women bring more attention to themselves by being so insecure at times. I guess that's what we do. In the end, if you have a spouse, partner, boyfriend or girlfriend. Love them no matter what. Accept their perfect imperfections and encourage them to live a healthier and sexier life! Until next time, Eat Right and Keep it Tight!  

I Must Admit...

To thine own self be true Yolanda! 

Okay, I must admit it to myself and to those of you who follow me... My gym routine has been a little slack. I am not the one to make excuses, but it's not my fault!!! I started going to the gym with all intentions on working out to help boost my weight loss. But since my near death experience, I was kinda scared of the gym. So, I decided that I needed to get a trainer. I would need he or she show me what I need to do, in order to get me where I want to be. So I finally met up with my trainer at LA Fitness to see what he was talking about. He was a wonderful guy. We talked  and he asked me a few questions like, Why I wanted to lose weight? What foods do I like the most? You know, the things a trainer would ask on your first meet and greet. Then we went and started my work out. Not too bad! He was actually kind! Nothing crazy like the nazi's on television who you see make fat boys and girls puke all over the screen! No, he was encouraging and I like him! The work out was intense enough to have me sore for the next few days, so it worked! I liked him! After the work out, I went back to his desk to discuss the financial commitment of having a trainer. 

I already made up in my mind that I wanted to pay $150 a month to meet up with my trainer once or twice a week. I just need the essentials! Teach me how to use the equipment, show me how to work out my core, and instruct me on how to tone and tighten all over! In between our sessions I will work out myself and make it work for me! Well, after sitting me down, we started talking. I find out that my trainer isn't going to be my trainer. The man that I felt comfortable with for the past hour is a manager who basically is there to take my payment...  My trainer is actually a man who after meeting him for the first 5 seconds, I could tell he was trying to calculate how he was going to get me naked in the steam room after hours... #1 I hate men who think they are the shit. After flashing me his million dollar smile, I noticed he was holding a pink and purple heart iphone case. I look at the phone with a smirk on my face and say, "Cute phone case... I like the purple sparkle hearts..." Instantly I knew he was holding a chicks phone! There was no way in hell, that was this dudes phone! He quickly stated that it's his other clients phone. A woman then walks up to us with a sports bra and spandex on and says she needed her phone. She says this while looking at me up and down... Wooooow! This dude is a gym pimp! Oh no thanks! I am not subscribing to this! Can you just imagine me working out on all fours and this dude touching and grabbing some of my 2000 parts??? Yea, no thanks. I'm good! 

 And on top of me finding out that he was going to be my trainer, I was going to have to pay $190 to sign up plus $180 a month and on top of that I was going to have to sign a contract that tied me into this deal for 50 weeks!! Wooooooooooo Nelly!! This is way too much and I don't want to commit to that! This is not something I want to even consider. 

So I have been avoiding that gym all together.

I have been doing floor exercises at home but I really don't think it's doing what I want it to do! So I am soliciting help! LOL! If you have any exercises that you think will help to trim, tighten and tone, hit me up at fatgurlfine@gmail.com! I love to get emails from you guys! I got some wonderful recipes and tips for weight loss! KEEP IT COMING!  Also, if you are a trainer and you want to work with me, please e-mail me as well. I would love to feature you in my blog! Until next time FAT GUYS AND GURLS, eat right and keep it TIGHT!!!! Muah!